Monday, October 26, 2009

Halloween already? Among other ramblings...

How on earth can it be time for Halloween already? I mean this weekend, seriously? I don't even know if I'm going to dress up or what I would dress up as. Hmmmm... I'm excited. Fall is a great time.. and Halloween is so fun. Plus... CANDY... YUM! John goes all out on Halloween dressing up and all that. I think he's going to be helping our friend with a haunted house. What sucks is that John has to work on Halloween, and I don't know what time he'll get off. The festivities around here start at 5:00 or 5:30. I'm hoping he can get off by 2:00 or 3:00.

John has been working overtime lately which is so bittersweet. We need the money YES! But it's hard when he got out of the Navy to spend more time with us. That is hard to do when he works Monday-Saturday till about 6:00 PM, comes home filthy so there's 1/2 an hour to shower. I guess I should be grateful we at least can eat dinner together and I'm certainly thankful I get to sleep next to him each night. I am just feeling like I saw him more when he was in the Navy. (only because he would fly home Friday and we'd have the weekend to run around together) I really should stop complaining.... but not yet. He usually only has to work Mon-Thurs and that's been awesome, but like I said, we needed the extra money. A Friday here, a Saturday there is great. Yes, he gets overtime if it lines up right. Well anyay, so last week he was supposed to work Friday and Saturday.. but he had his kidney infection pain.. and then the antibiotics would knock him out.. so he couldn't work!

So he was home, but sick.. and the kids were sick and I wasn't feeling so good myself. Then this past weekend he had to work Friday and Saturday.. I feel like we need a date night so bad! We were able to sneak in a family dinner with the kids Saturday. He got home at a decent time, went home, showered, picked up little Jessie from his mom's and met us at Chili's. It was nice, but then it's bed time, we have a 45 minute drive home.. and then we're all exhausted and have to get up for church the next day.

Really I'm being a whiner, because church isn't until 1:00 PM. Plenty of time right? Not when you're exhausted and have 3 kids to get ready and had a rough week. While we were at Chili's my favorite missionary called. Him and his companion were at our house to visit. Aw man... :( I felt bad we weren't home. He said he was leaving to go HOME on Tuesday (or at least that was his last day being a missionary here) and wanted to say goodbye. I asked if they could come over the next day (sunday-yesterday) He said they could do 2:00, but I said we'd be in church. He said something like what do you want to go to church for? LOL... we decided they could come at 10:00 AM before church. So we had to get up earlier than usual... and it was well worth it. He's just a great guy and a wonderful missionary. I really hope we can stay in touch. He told us he loved us and we got to hug him and say goodbye. We definitely LOVE him too! We might be going to a fireside Wednesday night to see him one last time. That would be awesome. He is so genuine. Some missionaries are so monotone and you just feel like they're going through the motions. I could see the truth shining in this guy. No denying that. Everything he shared with us was heartfelt and pure.

Since John and I had both had a long, rough week... we only went to sacrament meeting. We came home and relaxed for a bit and then had dinner. Our home teachers came over and we had a nice time with them. (one was a fill in.. and he's a great/funny guy) John was really not feeling like having them over.. but I think those are the times you need them the most. Once they came, he didn't seem to mind at all, and we laughed and joked and then had a nice little lesson and it was all good.

Shortly after John was ordained an Elder, we had our last temple lesson at the Buntjers. We talked a little about the priesthood and blessings. Both of the girls wanted a blessing right then and there. It was awesome. I think Jeremy got a blessing later that night at home. I was going to get one later as well. However, it didn't happen. So I hope it would happen sometime before we went to the temple, but it didn't. Well yesterday I really felt like I needed one. I always have been a huge fan of priesthood blessings. I've been amazed so many times by the power felt and the personal things said. I never thought I'd have a husband that could give me such a blessing. What a cool feeling that he could help me in such a personal/powerful way in our own home when I needed it. I didn't have to call someone else and hope they could come as soon as I wanted. I think he's struggled a bit with giving blessings. They are stil new and a bit foreign to him. I don't know if he knows how to feel the spirit and let it guide him. He's not sure if his mind can shut off long enough to listen to anything but the voices in his head. (ha ha not really.. but he has ADHD, so he's alwyas got something going on in his mind)
Well it was finally time for my blessing. He seemed a bit nervous, almost shy, which is so unlike him. But I understand, this is all still new to us, praying in front of each other.. it's getting easier and less awkward, but it will take some time. However, he did what he needed to get ready and he totally redeemed himself. It was so amazing to connect like that between Heavenly Father, John and me. He knew just what to say, just what I needed to hear. I'm so proud and grateful that he is my husband and that he's become such an honorable man.


  1. Sounds like you have an awesome family! I remember when my husband use to work 12 hour shifts 6 days a week, while he went to school during the day. We only had 2 kids then, but it was hard. My husband was recently laid off from his job and we have struggled, but I have learned patience. This is something that does not come easy for me. In time, we will be in a much better place than now. It is just hard sometimes. I would like to know more about you, your adoption, and family. My email is or are you on Facebook? There I am Ruth Minnick Fryer.

  2. Hey you! Ruth is my friend just thought you would like to know. She is a wonderful friend by the way. you will enjoy getting to know her.

    I'm excited for halloween too. We are going to the local ward herefor a trunk or treat and a bbq. It will be fun for sure!

  3. I'm sorry to hear that he's been laid off. I really am grateful he has a good job. He took a good sized pay-cut getting out of the Navy, and things are extra-tight, but glad he has a job. I think that's why it sucks when he works so much, we never seem to get ahead.
    I haven't done adoptions, but I've been a surrogate a few times.

    I just added you on Facebook. :) Or at least requested you as a friend. Look forward to getting to know you!

    One Cluttered Brain... cool! We're doing trunk or treat here too and then probably taking the kids to their grandparent's and to my aunt's because she goes ALL out on Halloween, decorations and all!


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