Wednesday, November 3, 2010

an unexpected interview

I'm always amazed and caught off guard when I'm approached because of my blog. It's usually because of surrogacy. Who am I kidding? It's always been about surrogacy. 

Here's a recent e-mail I received:

Dear Mrs ________,  (sorry not going to show my real last name)

I'm a Journalism student in Paris. Within the framework of my journalism school, I have to investigate on surrogate mothers on Internet. The story is about the fact that these women use Internet and social networks to tell their stories. I've been very moved by your blog. I'm also very interested by your tweets.

I guess you are very busy but I was wondering if by any chance you could either send me an email about this experience, or answer a quick interview tomorrow (10/28). If you prefer, we could also exchange by emails. I can send you questions, so you can take your time to answer. It's pretty urgent because we are working just like actual editorial offices, so we have short deadlines. I have to give back my story before tomorrow night.

The interview would not be long, and it would be really interesting to get highlights from you.

The story won't be shown except to my teacher. She will then decide if she'll put it or not on our websites ( ). I'll be in French, but I can translate it for you.

Let me know if you would agree,

Thanks a zillion

Yours faithfully,

ChloƩ (not going to show her last name either)

At first I thought- is this for real? But she mentions twitter and my blog and I felt pretty good about it. She e-mailed me at the address attached to my Twitter account and I noticed she was following me on Twitter.  Plus I figured, if I answer her questions, what's it going to hurt? I doubted she would ask me anything I wouldn't feel comfortable blogging about anyway. Make sense?  So I said sure and answered her questions right away. I then asked if I could post the Q&A on my blog and she said yes.

Ta da:

1/ Why did you start a blog? Do you want to inspire others? Is it to counteract the awkward reactions most people show when you told them about surrogacy?

I originally started my blog because I was going through a spiritual journey at the time with my family. (getting ready to go through the LDS/Mormon temple) My youngest daughter was making some cute inspirational observations and a friend suggested I started a blog.

2/ Why did you choose to put your story online? I saw you were very involved in social networks and community websites. Why internet seemed to be the perfect place to share according to you? Would you say that you got a blog to share this story with all the women who want to become surrogate mothers? Or would you say it's a kind of universal story that you want to share with the all world?

I chose to put my story online because I was already telling everyone on Facebook, etc. what was going on in my life. With my blog, I felt I could reach out to more people. I love to connect with other surrogates and intended parents, but my blog is universal. I blog about everyday wife as well. My husband was in the Navy for 10 years and I've blogged about that a few times.

3/ For who did you write? Your kids and your family? Your friends? Did FIP's read your blog? Did you write for surro kids?

On my blog I write for myself (I hope that doesn't sound selfish, I meant that I write as a journal) and hope that I write about subjects and experiences that are interesting to others. I know some of my family and friends check my blog every now and then. My surro kids are pretty young to be reading my blog. I would love for them to know who I am though as they get older. I'm not aware that my FIP's read my blog.

4/ Do you think you write more about the good and easy states of your surrogacy journey, or do you think you write more when it was difficult?

I write about all aspects of the surrogacy journey. However, some things would be too personal to write about. For example, if I had a negative experience with an intended parent, that wouldn't be appropriate to blast all over the internet. It really depends on the situtaion. There are private places  I could turn to, to vent and get support and understanding.

5/ What was different between writing the book and keeping your blog updated?

Writing my book was a much more creative experience. I'm more easy going when I post to my blog. I worked hard on my book and edited and re-edited. With my blog, I like to be more spontaneous and don't worry so much about editing or having it "just right". Also, I wrote my book to be a children's book, although I feel adults could enjoy it as well. I wanted to contribute something about surrogacy that was positive. There is too much negative exposure in the media.

6/ What did you get out of this experience?

Out of the surrogacy experience? I get a feeling of accomplishment. It's very uplifting.. Even years after the babies are born, I feel on top of the world. It's amazing to help others, especially in a way that they couldn't do on their own. I care deeply about the surrogate children I've given birth to and I wish the best for them at all times. I'm amazed how many people approach me and ask me questions or compliment me for being so selfless. It's always unexpected and appreciated.

I really felt like I could have said more or could have been more ellaborate, but I was short on time, and wanted to get it to her so she could turn it in. I was very flattered that she approached me and that she had such nice things to say. She was worried about her English, but I almost think she is better at it than me.



  1. Hello! I am new to your blog but I am loving it so far! I think it is absolutely awesome that you are a surrogate mother! I have prayed about someday doing the same thing. Maybe this sounds weird but I LOVE being pregnant! Don't get me wrong.. I hate morning sickness, swollen feet, an achy back and well the labor is pretty painful. BUT for some reason I still love it. Anyways thanks for finding me. I look forward to reading more!

  2. Thank you for following me. I am glad to follow you too.

  3. Thank you for stopping by my blog. I am happy to be your newest follower.

  4. Hello! I'm stopping by your blog because I noticed you found mine! I saw "Surrogate" and immediately had to come on over to yours :) I'm always interested in hearing about other's surrogacy journeys, especially since this is my first time around. It's helpful for me to see/hear what others experience! Thanks for stopping by!

  5. It's not crazy to love being pregnant despite the morning sickness, etc. I'm the same way!

    Happy to have you all as new followers!



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